Jesus: “Dear friends, in this revelation I would like to discuss the subject of ‘relationships’ with you and highlight certain aspects that play a role in opening the heart within the context of a relationship. These aspects, incidentally, play a role in all kinds of relationships, such as between neighbours, friends, family members or colleagues; the more intimate a relationship is, the more strongly these aspects come into play, for example in a romantic relationship.”
Activating subtle aspects of the heart
Jesus: “Every relationship you enter into presents an opportunity to activate subtle aspects of the heart or, conversely, to deny them. When two people meet, a certain degree of contact and openness arises. A certain degree of vulnerability towards one another also arises. You influence one another. You ‘touch’ the other person and you can also be ‘touched’. Both parties are co-creators of what unfolds within a relationship. Both are capable of influencing the relationship, whether towards loving contact or a painful experience. They can therefore always ask themselves: what do I want to create in this relationship? And they can then observe and evaluate whether their behaviour and communication in this relationship are, and have been, focused on the goal they have set for themselves.
It sometimes happens that one consciously thinks one wants to create something, but that one’s attitude and manner of communication create something quite different. If, for example, a relationship in your life is not what you think you want, you can begin to sense how this came about and explore what your actual need is in this relationship.
In ‘being together’, trust and surrender play an important role. The very fact that you make contact with someone already implies that there is a minimum level of trust in that person. And also that a certain degree of surrender has arisen through the openness that contact entails, however small this may sometimes be.”
Giver and receiver
Jesus: “In your interaction with the other person, you play the role of both ‘giver’ and ‘receiver’. On the one hand, you give trust and show surrender; on the other hand, you also ‘receive’ this. When you treat the trust that the other person places in you with love and respect, you nurture a quality of the heart in that person, enabling them to open their heart a little further. This person experiences that their quality of the heart is being responded to. All of this also stimulates your own heart quality and heart opening. Perhaps you recognise the feeling you get when another person treats you and your intentions in a loving and respectful way. You feel uplifted, inspired, lighter and, in a certain way, loved. This promotes the opening of your heart and the further incarnation of your Higher Self on Earth. Relationships are an important path for the integration of your Higher Self.”
What attitude do you adopt in relationships?
Jesus: “In a relationship, your own attitude plays a key role. Do you behave like a CreatorHuman beings shape their lives on Earth through creation. This Divine creative force comprises three important principles: the Creator, who creates; the Created, what is created; and the Process of Creation, the creative process initiated b..., someone who takes responsibility for their actions? Or do you adopt the attitude of a victim or a perpetrator? Your conscious or unconscious choice determines how much you open your heart in your relationships and to what extent you also encourage the other person to open their heart. Regardless of the other person’s attitude towards themselves or towards you, you have the ability to act consciously from your own Divinity. If the other person offers you the role of victim or perpetrator, you do not have to accept it if it is not in line with the quality of your heart. For example, someone reacts to you with indignation, thereby positioning themselves as a victim. This stance implies that you are the perpetrator, whereas that was not your intention at all. In this way, you are being offered a role. You can refuse this role and remain in your heart, and then respond from the awareness that both you and the other person are Creators of your own reality and are therefore neither victim nor perpetrator.
It is also important to realise how you handle the trust that another person places in you. Respect for yourself and for the other person play an essential role here. This means being aware that your own needs and the needs of the other person are of great value. And that, knowing this, you act in such a way that you do not hurt yourself or the other person.”
Essentially, you create everything yourself in this life
Jesus: “Although from a spiritual perspective it can be said that you can only hurt yourself and that, in fact, no one can really do anything to you, you can still choose to treat your feelings and the feelings of others with respect. The latter has to do with the fact that you create everything yourself in this life. If you feel pain when someone says something to you, this is merely a reflection of your own thoughts. If something hurts you, it means that you feel that way too, however difficult it may be to admit and acknowledge this to yourself. If you try to hurt someone else, that is also a reflection of your own thoughts about yourself. You are actually attacking yourself. You can explore this by feeling what it was like when you once hurt someone else and how you felt afterwards. It is not possible to hurt another person without hurting yourself. Essentially, love for another is always in harmony with love for yourself. If what you feel for another is linked to ‘giving yourself away’, then it is not love, but an expression of self-judgementAfter spending a number of years on Earth, the young child is confronted with rejection, correction and unfair treatment from their immediate environment, which they do not expect. This criticism hits the child like a hurricane, causing the....”
Being allowed or not allowed to be
Jesus: “It is also possible that, within a relationship, you deny your heart’s quality. Every time you fail to acknowledge and respect the Divinity within yourself or another, you convey to the other person and to yourself the message ‘you are not allowed to be here’, ‘your heart is not allowed to be here’. This can take deeper or more superficial forms, depending on the intensity of the relationship. When you send the message to another person that they are not really allowed to be there, the other person can choose whether or not to accept this message. This person may feel hurt or may accept the message on your behalf and realise that you have not experienced their Divinity. The same choices apply to you. If you and the other person choose to feel hurt, it is because your self-judgementAfter spending a number of years on Earth, the young child is confronted with rejection, correction and unfair treatment from their immediate environment, which they do not expect. This criticism hits the child like a hurricane, causing the... has been triggered. What is actually happening is that one judges oneself and subsequently experiences pain. From a spiritual perspective, this can be seen as a new possibility, an opportunity and a catalyst for healing self-judgementAfter spending a number of years on Earth, the young child is confronted with rejection, correction and unfair treatment from their immediate environment, which they do not expect. This criticism hits the child like a hurricane, causing the....”
The true encounter
Jesus: “The true encounter with another person is a special moment. It is an opportunity to experience unity. When love flows back and forth, this gives a powerful impulse to the opening of the heart. These encounters arise from freedom and from the awareness that you yourself shape your life and create everything yourself. You have the intention to make contact and you have an interest in another person, whilst also knowing that you need nothing and that in your heart you are perfect and Divine. You make this contact through the joy you feel in meeting another person. You admire yourself and the other person. And in this encounter, love arises. The more open the contact, the stronger the flow of love. All of this forms an important opportunity offered to you during this incarnation on Earth; namely, to make contact with the Divinity of another through the experience of your own Divinity. I wish you much joy in this. I, Jesus, but also Mary Magdalene, Mary and Joseph, are always here for you to support and guide you in your relationships and the processes involved. You can ask us to help you with this, either through prayer or by expressing your intentions to us.
With unconditional love, Jesus.”
